Interesting topic...as I too, struggle with insecurity in regards to my biking abilities...and really, all of my athletic abilities. I can totally relate to the "not looking the part" thing...even though I have been active and involved in biking, running, swimming, spinning, gym workouts, and strength training for well over half of my life (I'm 44, btw). One my of regular cycling partners is a really great guy who constantly offers lots of encouragement, along with a little "tough love" thrown in for good measure. But sometimes, I find it annoying and frustrating, when he thinks he is encouraging me and giving me a mental boost...when in reality, it's the complete opposite. But I know he means well, so I try not to dwell on it so much. I have pretty low self-esteem to begin with, so it's very difficult for me to accept compliments (insulting or not).

Linda