First of all Celery, I'm sorry you are having love trouble.
The other day when this thread came up I saw the word 'emergency' and I looked it up thinking it would be health-related. Then I read the first paragraph:
Now...onto my problem...this might get long, its relationship stuff...
I'm really the last person in the world that you would want relationship advice from - so I did not read further and went back to the bicycle posts. At least with bikes I sort of know what I'm talking about.
This afternoon - two days later!!! the thread title is still on the top lines, and has a row of page numbers next to it. So I figured it must be some instructive discussion and decided to read through the posts - who knows, I could learn something. Unfortunately, I read most of the thread before Snapdragen's intervention (thank you Snapdragen you rock!), fairly inappropriate posts included, which really were disappointing and had no reason to be. This is an internet forum, there's room for everyone, and no need to be territorial. How about we just help each other without being aggressive?

And Celery, since now I came back to read the last posts and made the effort of logging in, I will pitch in my two cents of advice. Just please kindly PM me a signed waiver, will you? 'cos it's not my specialty and I take no responsibility here!
just kidding...

I am with Pedal Wench and Flybye here, joining the 'opposition':
It is very rare that we are given a second chance in life. Rare in business, very rare in health, even more rare in relationships.
There is no coincidence - so if you were thinking about this ex-girlfriend now, and if she was thinking about you now - there may be a reason.
We have only today. Do not leave things unsaid or undone, do not find yourself wondering 'what if', do not wait for tomorrow. If you have something more to say to your ex, do it today - and then let you both find peace. What she will do with it - that is not for you to decide, it's in her hands. If her committment to her fiance is faltering - better for them to find out today than after the vows have been exchanged. If you two believe you are committed to each other, better to find out today - when you can still change plans without wrecking a marriage.
Do what you feel is right, and do it now. Regret is not a good travel companion to walk with.

And last, do me a favor - I know, I'm just a stranger on the internet - but still I gave you my share of (bad) advice, so now do me a favor: go to the local bookstore and buy yourself a book. It's called 'failing forward' by John Maxwell. I sometimes give it to the residents when they have a harsh setback, and invariably it helps them raise back up and spring forward. It's mostly about business, but really business is about relationship - so it could be of help.

Good luck to you - and I hope this little bit of turmoil will not scare you away from the TE forum


What the heck is wrong with me lately? I used to sign in, tell people "go buy a Bianchi" and sign out - and lately I'm writing this unbelievably long posts - must be the full moon coming, or maybe old age...