Quote Originally Posted by PamNY View Post
Your feelings are perfectly normal and understandable. I don't doubt you are a wonderful guy, but you probably don't have the power to destroy this woman's life and upcoming nuptials. Women no longer live that way (if they ever did).

If her commitment to her intended is so fragile that a chat with a former lover could disrupt the wedding plans, then that marriage shouldn't take place.

Just give the woman a call if you want, see where it leads, and don't make it into a Great Big Drama. Expressing and exploring the emotions involved will probably do both of you a world of good.

Pam
it sounds so calm and sensible when you put it all the way you did! lol

i think it might turn into a drama fest though. i mean...she was crying in her voicemail to me. and i turned on the waterworks just listening to her crying. it's going to difficult...for my part, i just have so much regret and sorrow. for her...i don't know...maybe thinking back brings back how much she hurt at the time.