Quote Originally Posted by michelem View Post

Another thing we needed to learn was to let go of the 50-50 concept -- if I see you do your part, then I'll do my part; but, if I don't see you do your part, then you better believe I'm not gonna do my part! We had to start looking at ourselves contributing 100% to the marriage, whether or not the other was contributing anything at all. No, I'm not talking about becoming a slave or a doormat. We both committed to the concept, so that each of us was giving 100%. Granted, we don't live up to this 100% of the time, but we try and that makes all the difference..
Hey, I thought WE invented this concept! Thanks for bringing it up!!


and to all of you whose marriages are no longer considered such by their state, please remember that the most important part of a relationship is what is between the two of you. (although having a few legal rights would sure be nice too). I am sorry about the election results.