Quote Originally Posted by RolliePollie View Post
I'm 34, single, never married, never really had a long term relationship, and currently have no prospects. Lately I've started to realize I've pretty much given up on ever finding anyone, and unfortunately I'm starting to feel a little bitter about it. Reading all of these posts makes me realize how much I do want a relationship! It's just so hard to find a good guy (or any guy at all!)...and I'm not good at meeting new people. But I'm really good at being single and on my own, and I'm proud of myself for being independent. So if the right guy comes along, I'll be absolutely thrilled. But I'm not getting my hopes up!
I was 31 when I met my partner. Before that I was getting impatient with life..so I bought my own home....was getting nicely into setting up my very own home...when several months later..he appeared in life.

And even after meeting my partner, I continued to live in and own my place --but he and I made many visits/stays between his and my place...by bike rides across the city. I suppose the tendency is that 2 people shortly move in to live together but we chose not to do that. And it was in hindsight good..and less stressful on his young teenage children (at that time) whom he had custody/visits arrangements with his ex.

I would like to share something with this forum:

My parents are in a traditional marriage...mother always a full-time housewife. She was picture bride...she never met her future husband for real until she stepped off the plane in Toronto direct from mainland China, to marry my father. She and Dad exchanged photos and wrote letters for a few months. Then just a year after marriage, they had their lst kid, me.

In such relationship, the woman is nearly at the mercy of her husband and often must defer to her hubby..unless she has the resources to leave.

Though the marriage isn't 100% perfect, for certain i know my mother knows she is incredibly lucky to marry a man who never abused her, is hardworking, patient ..and willingly shares household duties and cooking with her,......which is more rare in their generation during their aging years. Through their marriage, I am highly accustomed to a strong marriage as ongoing communication, trust and being united in values, how one runs their lifestyle, finances, etc.

Communication, trust and intimacy is top in our relationship. You have to be each other's sexual , but best friends for life, to make it work and to help one another grow like trees entwined in branches together, but deeply rooted beside one another and to bend well in winds, if necessary.