Quote Originally Posted by OakLeaf View Post
Whoa.... easy there. I agree it's a little facile for me to throw out diagnoses online, and I apologize for that . . .

I was just echoing what others have said, that when someone doesn't automatically understand how their behavior might be offensive to others, indirect approaches have a high chance of going right over their head.

'Kay?
Thank you very much, Oakleaf.

I don't know yet that he doesn't automatically understand how his behavior is different. I haven't had the opportunity to try the "kind, but direct approach" but based on past history with him it works. I couldn't articulate the "kind" part and that is why I asked the question in the first place. I needed the right words.

There were many great ideas in the first responses which answered my very simple question.

And people behave differently in museums and galleries than they do in a friend's home as their perception is that the rules are different. He simply needs a kind explanation of the rules.

Thank you all for the kind condolences for my Wonder Poodle. I was fortunate to have had his friendship for twelve wonderful years. OK, gotta go find the Kleenex box.