Well - to struggle back to the debate for a moment - I'd like to point out that his 2nd post didn't exactly "out" a PM. It wasn't quoted, and no names were given. What he did say was that he had been "accused" of seeing TE as a dating forum, and he wanted to make it absolutely clear that he had had good intentions, so that nobody else would misunderstand him. I'd probably do much the same in his case.