I’m not here to crash the party…

[Mr. Bloom]

Zen, I think the world of you (even though we disagree on cell phone usage )

The issue to me in this is that a PM attack on anyone...particularly where it seems to presume a consensus of the entire group that doesn't exist...is inappropriate.

If a member has an issue with another person's membership, let's base it on what they do and what they say...and not their gender. If there's a problem, this is a well moderated group...and the moderators will intervene...and PM vigilante-ism is not needed.

Frankly, I hope that the PM in question simply confirmed that this wasn't a dating forum and that Bruce merely understood the meaning differently than intended...but I also know from experience that this may be wishful thinking...

[Veronica]

...this wasn't a dating forum ...

It's not?!? But I tell people that I met SK, Jobob and aka_kim through an online dating service - TE!

V.

[Trek420]

It's not?!? But I tell people that I met SK, Jobob and aka_kim through an online dating service - TE!

V.

Well you have been out to drinks and or dinner with many of us And I slept with Bike Goddess for a week Calm down everyone, she was my tentmate on ALC

Ahem... I don't like beer. Does this mean I have to leave TE?

V.

Only if you don't like chocolate. You like chocolate, right? Whew. thought I was going to have to report you.

Yes, Trek, I do have a life and don't have time to read every post.
V.

And you train, oh man you train. If I trained instead of posting .... oh heck, we all know I still couldn't do the CA Triple crown.

This is one of the things I've loved about this board. There are people here who think I ride pretty well or know stuff and we've gotten to ride together and there are people here I'm just in awe of. If I'm out on a ride and see a Triple Crown jersey or Terrible Two I'm "oh, they are in a whole 'nother cycling world from me" But I've never found a more varied yet supportive board.

[latelatebloomer]

Gotta say that I have thought it a sign of a very healthy community to have some male te posters who liked the positive, support tone of this board and whose participation was welcomed. And some issues have come up in which thoughtful male points of view have been really helpful. In my opinion, the PM that went to a thankful soldier should have gone to an administrator. In my other opinion, the only solution to unwanted free speech is MORE free speech. That's something I love about my country. Now I'm out of opinions (hah!)

Ride safe & sound, Bruce. Thanks for your service to our country. It was good of you to get in touch with us, and please stay in touch!

[Mr. Bloom]

Only if you don't like chocolate. You like chocolate, right? Whew. thought I was going to have to report you.

I bought a Godiva Milk Chocolate at Macy's (along with 5 Waterford Crystal ornaments) while Silver was getting her hair naturalized...I'm sure this qualifies me for membership

He has just as much right to post the content of a private message as does he the right to post on any online forum, including this one.

I agree on this. If someone doesn't want to "see it in writing", then they shouldn't "put it in writing"....

Rest assured, if someone sends me a highly offensive PM, I have no problem with the possibility of posting it out in the 'light of day'

...but then, as a married man on a women's forum, I make it a point of avoiding the use of PMs