Make sure your saddle is adjusted so that you're sitting on your sit bones. There shouldn't be any pressure on your folds. Most women seem to like the saddle to be nearly flat but with the nose canted down slightly. That's how I ride on my tandem. On my road bike since my handle bars are nearly level with my saddle, I prefer the saddle nose to be canted up slightly. Play with the position to find what works for you. I find gel saddles to be too squishy to really feel my sit bones on. But we're all different. Just remember pain is not something you have to ride with. Bikes are not supposed to be uncomfortable.
Veronica