Close friends who won't reveal age

[shootingstar]

I have 2 close women friends who refuse to reveal their age to me. It's not a huge deal but it's puzzling to me. 1 woman I've known for last 30 years. We know of each other's health matters over the years and efforts to improve, plus stuff related to our respective families. She likes to look organized, meaning not a hair strand too much of out of place, etc. But she goes for walks, etc.

Another woman who is good trusted local friend I've known for last 5 years. We do stuff together approx. 2-3 times per month. I've met some of her family members and she's met my partner, an important person in my life. Impossible to meet my family members since they live in another province. She is business dress casual because her job requires site visits at construction sites, she's down to earth. She gives me her most honest opinion about stuff. We have very similar family backgrounds --low-income, Chinese-Canadian, immigrant parents, etc.

Yet she refuses to tell me her age. She's probably approx. 8-10 yrs. younger than I, just based on our discussion on past fads, etc.

I dunno, maybe I'm just different. Both friends know my age....plus other friends. I told them. No, I don't tell people at work my age and I wouldn't tell strangers /others ages of friends when they meet my friends.

There are times I think that this is the last milestone of feminism to cross : fear of ageism: and conquer it by feeling free to reveal your age to other women friends whom you trust at least. And both of these women live independent lives, give much to their communities.

Do your close friends know your age?