I'm in a quandry, and therefore I'm putting it out for advice from the TE sisterhood (and brotherhood).

Again Father Dearest and his wife have made a donation in my name to one of their local charities, this time to a church run private school that wife is heavily involved with. Previous years it has been to the church's missionary fund. I would prefer that if a donation is made in my name, it's to a charity that I would support, or at least to one in my area. So how do I suggest to them that I'd prefer a donation be made elsewhere? Or do I even make the suggestion?

Writing the yearly thank you note is difficult, because I just don't appreciate the "gift." So I put a note on my calendar, say in September, that I write FD and suggest charities A, B, or C, as ones I'd like supported for the annual Christmas "gift?"