This certainly is a difficult topic, and I wish you luck first and foremost!
As a small shop owner, it is a very difficult time. But that's also true with lots of retail shops regardless of the type of business. Although I'd also like to give you a couple of examples... last fall I ordered a trainer for a customer, she paid for it and I put her bike on it. Before ordering, I asked whether she wanted anything else... computer, DVd, etc... and she didn't which was fine. Later she decided that she indeed did want a computer and asked if I could make a house call and install the computer as she didn't want to take the bike off the trainer. (although I assured her that I could either help or teach her) So everthing worked out well, and she rode all winter. Last fall, she decided that she needed a floor pump and purchased it from Wally world, which again, is her choice. But the issue I have is that she called me in a panic and wanted me to teach her over the phone how to use it. While I tried to ask her questions over the phone to determine which type of pump it was, she was confused, and I wasn't able to get the info. Her frustration was that now she had broken the valve stem off her tube, couldn't ride and was very upset. Which of course i would be as well.... again she didn't want to take her bike off the trainer and wanted me to make another housecall. (which I was happy to do) While at her home, she complained about the pump and the quality of it over and over... she asked me for my opinion. I wanted to be professional, so I stated that the quality wasn't very good, and by buying there she not only wasn't able to get any customer service from them(as she had made repeated calls to Wally world in an attempt to figure things out before calling me) and that although she saved money, in the long run she had spent more money... a new tube, paid me to come fix it, new pump and another trip back to Wally world to return the pump. I have had similar issues with others the past few months... Should I be taking time away from shop hours to go and make a housecall when I wasn't even consulted for a purchase? I guess only you can answer that...
So long story short, customer service is without a doubt the most important feature we can have when we purchase items. FInd a shop that you feel comfortable with, communicate with them what you want, and also ask their opinions... maybe you're looking for future upgrades etc... Maybe you can make suggestions as to items that you'd like to see in the shop, if they don't carry it and can't see sales from it, then your imput is extremely valuable to them!
Anyway, sorry for the long rant and your frustration. I hope that you are able to be comfortable in your LBS which ever one you choose, but either way, don't forget to mention what you'd like to see in inventory with them as well.

Ultimately they want to make you happy!
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