I moved the stem up as far as it will go, it is a quill stem but has a 0 degree rise so it isn't upright but it isn't bent down either, just 90degrees straight out from the quill. I also turned the handlebars up a little bit so that the hoods were angled more upwards.

Then i made my husband hand over his new, low end 36 spoke wheels with 700x25 tires on them to replace my older 24 spoke racing wheels with 700x23 tires.

The wheels/tires were a huge improvement towards making me feel like the bike is more stable. The stem adjustment was better but I am still not happy with the handlebars. I prefer having my hands and arms spread wider like on my hybrid so I wonder if wider handlebars would help? I also had a lot of wrist pain with the hoods tilted up although i did feel like I had a better grasp on the brakes while on the hoods. Getting into the drops just doesn't work for me at all. Again, maybe different bars would work better but I don't know if I want to spend a bunch of money trying all a bunch of different bars.

At this point I am half tempted to convert the bike into a flat bar road bike. I really really want to ride a road bike in theory but when it comes down to it I don't know if drop style handlebars are for me.

I am supposed to do a 39 mile club ride tomorrow and my husband is insistent that I should take my road bike because my hybrid is going to be so slow but the thought of riding my road bike for that long makes me tense and nervous.