Shannon, I felt the same way... especially that the typical lycra shorts are EXTREMELY unforgiving. I just invested in the LG 3K shorts which are made from a completely different material and it made a world of a difference. In fact, I think they're actually slimming! Try out some different materials, I blame it on the fabric.
Life goes by pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, and do whatever you want all the time, you could miss it.
2010 Fuji Roubaix 1.0
2007 Fuji Absolute 2.0