Hey Caligurl,
I just can't get over what a terrible bike shop you go to! No wonder he is losing business. We have the best guys at our LBS. It's pretty small, but you would love it. They are so friendly and would go out of the way to do anything for you. My DH was looking at a MTB in the $2500 price range and they had a large, but the owner wasn't sure that was exactly the right size, so he said he would order an extra large just so he could ride it and then just keep it in stock. ( he does not sell a lot of bikes in this range) We told him that wasn't neccesary, DH is mainly a road bike guy, and we ended up not buying that bike, but thought it was so nice for him to offer. They always go out of their way to be helpful even before we bought our first bikes, and have NEVER heard them say anything bad about another customer. It would make me wonder what they say about us when we leave!
P.S. I'm a girly-girl too. Have not a clue about bike maintenance, I don't even air up my own tires! DH does it all and enjoys it.
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