Hey ladies...here's the dealio

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and i are having a rough time right now and I could use some advice...maybe some of you have been here before.

BF is the one who got me into riding a year ago. The first summer was great! We rode together often with no problem. After a while, he started to want to teach me things and he became more of a coach figure than my BF. With that said, i always became defensive when he tried to coach me..because i just wanted to have fun riding my bike.

A year later, Aaron decides to take a break off the bike and the racing scene...oddly enough...thats when I decide to get involved with racing and training. I get involved with a LBS and do group rides, training rides, and start making friends that were on the same level as me...as well as some male racers who wanted to give me some tips. I would invite BF on every ride i went on, he chose not to.

I dont like to ride alone in my town so some of the guys from the LBS offer to ride with me. Half of them are married and i have my BF, so in my eyes, i see nothing wrong with it at all. They all know aaron, and aaron knows all of them....They see me as a "little sister" and i see them as big brothers who are looking out for me.

The issue is BF feels jealous of the time they get to spend with me. BF and I cannot ride with eachother any more because he just wants to teach me...and i dont want to be coached by my BF. I'm fine with taking pointers from the guys at the LBS, but for some reason when it comes to BF, i get defensive.

This has caused problems now because I have decided to train for a tri...and some of the LBS guys are as well. There is no way i choose to train with the guys over spending time with BF...i even invite him along...but he chooses not to.

I guess i just have different views...i'm a firm believer in being able to have male friends and it being completely innocent on both sides. I enjoy training with the guys...and i have a fun time. BF is trying to work on understanding this...because he would never have a friendship with another girl (which i encourage). He says i'm the only girl he wants influencing his life...but i just can't help that i enjoy the innocent training time with the boys. YES there are girls at the LBS that i train with as well...they just aren't as into and wont train consistently.


the novel is over...ever been here before?