I lost my 17 year old cat three Christmas Eve's ago; and now his brother (who is now 23 years old) has become completely incontinent. I've had him so long and even though he has some arthritis, he still eats good, purrs good and still weighs about 19 pounds. He has been kind of leaky for a while and I have been dealing with it with puddle pads and washing blankets a lot; but now, even though he still tries to go to his box, he just can't control his bladder any longer.

I locked him in the laundry room today with nice warm blankets and a way to get to the garage where his kitty litter box is; but my husband says that he is just confused and unhappy about this change. Hubby was home for a while between a PT visit and going back to work to check on the kitty.

I am having a hard time coming to terms with taking kitty in and putting him to sleep especially since my two brother-in-laws passed away this year within 3 months of each other; and my other cat passed away on Christmas Eve. I just can't deal with putting Big Kitty down on Thanksgiving! But, I'm also about at the end of my rope dealing with the incontinence issue too.

Should I just bite the bullet and take him in to the vet?