My DH is driving me crazy

**andtckrtoo** · 08-28-2008, 03:20 PM

I have a sweet DH, but he does not get this whole commuting thing. It's a "Spare the Air" day, and it's HOT. I knew that when I decided to "Spare the Air" and ride in. It's all of 2 miles, after all. I'm hydrated and will carry extra water for this epic journey.

But he called me just a few minutes ago and asked, "I'm leaving the office, should I pick you up?" When I told him I was fine, but appreciated the offer, he asked, "Are you sure?" "Um, yeah, I'm sure honey." 5 minutes later, I managed to convince him that I did not need to be picked up. Oh, And I would love to blame this on the hot weather and his concern for me in it - but he does this every time I ride in. When I would walk to work, he would pull up beside me when I was about half way here and offer me a ride. It kind of defeats the purpose, doesn't it?

And it's not because he's a non-exerciser and doesn't understand. We run half marathons together every year, and he's a gym rat. Don't get me wrong, I really do appreciate that he is looking out for me, I just think it's funny - a bit wharped in a sweet way, but funny.

Anyone else deal with spouses, friends, coworkers who think you're going through a nutty phase and need help?

**Blueberry** · 08-28-2008, 03:34 PM

I kind of have the opposite problem - DH will go off with no water, etc. for a ride and probably should be checked on.

My friends are, however, firmly convinced that I'll die of a heart attack if I ride 2 miles in hot weather. *sigh* So is my grandmother.

CA

**GLC1968** · 08-28-2008, 03:43 PM

My DH is another type of opposite. He drives me nuts...hounding me to get me to ride. He is a big fan of making me feel guilty, even when I have a legit reason to drive. I guess that's a good thing, right?

**Blueberry** · 08-28-2008, 03:45 PM

Originally Posted by GLC1968

My DH is another type of opposite. He drives me nuts...hounding me to get me to ride. He is a big fan of making me feel guilty, even when I have a legit reason to drive. I guess that's a good thing, right?

Oh - I hear that

Does it with "bad" food too. I *think* I'm thankful. Most days.

CA

**madscot13** · 08-28-2008, 08:42 PM

My parents are both great about my biking around.My parents have both put money into my Leukemia an Lymphoma account and gotten people I have never met to put in a substantial amount. My dad has been very supportive of my training and never said a negative thing even after an accident. Every time I call him, he is curious about my training rides. He taught me how to keep my bike in check too.

But oh my gosh, I biked home from college to my parents house. my father was somewhat proud. But refused me to bike back to school because it was too hot! Umm Dad, Minnesota is like that. I think he was a bit worried about this one stretch of road I took that includes on ramps and off ramps. Ohh Daddy.

**Aggie_Ama** · 08-29-2008, 04:05 AM

My husband is a nut about cycling, so I get the guilt trip. I don't like to ride in the rain, one day it was clouding up on the way home he disapproved that I contemplated calling my Dad to get me (he works really close). It will be dark soon on rides, I am nervous and DH told me "I don't get it". Well dark and 5:00 traffic is not my idea of a good time but I will commute.

I rode 27 miles home Monday (95 degrees, humid), I had several co-workers ask if I had someone to call. Nope, just a lot of water and an easy pace.

They all think I am crazy anyway when they hear how long the ride is.

Now my Dad worries about me all the time. He just listens to the news of this cyclists getting hit, that cyclist getting killed. Sadly most of the ones around here lately have not been doing safe riding it sounds.

**sfa** · 08-29-2008, 05:14 AM

It's my mother who drives me nuts. Direct quote: "Oh, I wish you had told me you were riding in today so I would have known to worry!"

Sarah

**SouthernBelle** · 08-29-2008, 05:29 AM

Originally Posted by sfa

It's my mother who drives me nuts. Direct quote: "Oh, I wish you had told me you were riding in today so I would have known to worry!"

Sarah

That one is priceless!

**andtckrtoo** · 08-29-2008, 08:18 AM

Originally Posted by sfa

It's my mother who drives me nuts. Direct quote: "Oh, I wish you had told me you were riding in today so I would have known to worry!"

Sarah

Sarah - that is hysterical!!!

I work out 6 days a week, so DH knows if he were to push me, he'd probably get a kettlebell on his head.

But what really cracks me up is that when I do training rides, he doesn't bat an eye. He doesn't worry on my 50 mile training rides, just on my 2 mile commute - and I often ride the same roads for both. Go figure.

**obie** · 08-29-2008, 10:25 AM

I think my parents sort of pretend that I don't ride...they really are not encouraging. For safety reasons to be sure, but it's frustrating nonetheless.

**lph** · 08-29-2008, 12:20 PM

Originally Posted by andtckrtoo

He doesn't worry on my 50 mile training rides, just on my 2 mile commute - and I often ride the same roads for both. Go figure.

I got this, the other way round. "Gee, I worry knowing you're out there for several hours with all those other skinny bikes in the middle of all that traffic". I pointed out that each week I spent 5 times as much time on my normal commute in traffic with much less friendly DRIVERS around me.

**bikerHen** · 08-29-2008, 12:44 PM

Originally Posted by Aggie_Ama

My husband is a nut about cycling, so I get the guilt trip. I don't like to ride in the rain, one day it was clouding up on the way home he disapproved that I contemplated calling my Dad to get me (he works really close). It will be dark soon on rides, I am nervous and DH told me "I don't get it". Well dark and 5:00 traffic is not my idea of a good time but I will commute.

I have found that timing is everything. There is a huge difference in the amount of traffic if I wait until 5:30 to leave for home. Six o'clock is even better. But then I'm getting home later which kinda sucks. I discovered last fall/winter that I really love riding home in the cold and dark. And since it's dark by 4:30 in the winter, that's every evening commute.

bikerHen

**indigoiis** · 09-03-2008, 08:58 AM

Mine was incredulous when I said I was going to start commuting by bike last Fall.
Now he's indignant if I am NOT commuting by bike. "Why not?" he grills me. Uh, cuz it's supposed to thunder. Cuz I have to pick up the daughter. Cuz I have to go to the grain store.

He says, "excuses, excuses."

**sundial** · 09-03-2008, 09:07 AM

Originally Posted by CA_in_NC

I kind of have the opposite problem - DH will go off with no water, etc. for a ride and probably should be checked on.

LOL! I'm in that club too.

**shootingstar** · 09-03-2008, 11:41 AM

We don't subscribe to cell phone service...so really, my partner and I merely trust one another that we will be ok. He does cycle alot. And I cycle at least 40% of the time solo.

If we are temporarily apart because one is travelling in a different city/country, we will contact one another at least once per day. It's a style that works for us.

He and I generally know what we need/tend to do/ride in certain areas on that day in advance. If it's a long (ie. multi-day, multi-wk.)cycling trip he is embarking on, I generally know the next town/area he is aiming for. On such long trips he will activate cell phone service temporarily ..primarily so that he has local 9-1-1 access.

We would be abit concerned if we knew the other person was cycling through freezing temperatures, prolonged heavy rain or if there was extra high winds, where the probability of an accident could be real.

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