I, too, end up eating late after evening rides and then go to bed not long afterwards. If I didn't, I think I'd be in a world of hurt. I say eat.
One other thing I'd suggest. As you know, I'm fan of chocolate milk after rides, too. I've read that it's best to consume a recovery drink/food within a half hour of riding to get the full benefit. So, I bring my milk with me to rides in a thermos I bought at Target that keeps liquid cold for a good 14 hours. I just leave it in the car so that I can drink it the minute the ride is over. It's always cold enough, even on hot days.
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