jobs...why is it so hard to get a good one?

[cherinyc]

Hey ladies - I am admittedly depressed. It's temporary, I am sure, but....whenever I post a thread to you all about something that's bothering me, I always feel better afterwards so....here goes.

I am very very excited that I will be moving soon, to a place I really love. I've known about the move for a while, and BF has been working his butt off - all kinds of overtime - and secured us a nice savings so we won't be struggling w/ $$$ in the new city. However, I always pay my own bills - and make about 1/3 that he does, so my skimpy little savings will only last me about a month after my current job finishes on Nov 3rd. I really have my mind set on the job I am looking for, but it is a difficult industry to break into w/ out experience. So I am not sure how long I can hold out before I just take "something". Which will suck.
I am doing everything I can to get all kinds of contacts set up in my new city, before I get out there, but still. I'm a bit of a control freak, and not knowing is super tough for me. I just don't want to have to ask BF for bill $$, and I don't want to just take a job because I have to.

Why can't people just trust me when I say "I will kick A$$ at this job!!!!" ?

That's it - see I feel better already. Colorado look out, I'll be there soon.
Of course I figure that the days I'm still unemployed could be used to improve my snowboarding skills.

Hugs,
cheri

[mimitabby]

maybe it's time to go back to school? I make the same salary as my DH...
no reason why you can't get some credentials, is there?

[Squeaky]

How exciting!! Don't be depressed about these little nuisances. Go for it and don't lose sight of your goal. IF you temporarily have to fall back on your BF, that's okay because it all comes around. One day he'll need help with something and you'll be there for him. And IF you do end up eventually having to work a different job to get by, just make sure you keep putting the same effort into you're real goal. The problem occurs when you accept the part-time gig and no longer work towards your real endeavor because it's easier. Even if you have to do an internship while you waitress, you just gotta be persistant. Good luck and save me a spot on the slopes!!

[cherinyc]

maybe it's time to go back to school? I make the same salary as my DH...
no reason why you can't get some credentials, is there?

ummm - yeah, already did that. I have 2 Bachelors degrees (and a lot of student loan debt).

[paigette]

What is it that you want to do?

Do NOT give up hope, though, I just moved for a job that I thought I had no chance of getting (but wanted desperately). I've been here for a month & my boss was telling me that when it was down to me & another girl, my personality is what landed me the job. If the job fits you, it will show

[chickwhorips]

don't worry. you'll find something down there. you can always get a part time job as a waitress (i know horrible as it sounds, you still make good money part time) and and look into getting into the job you want. or what about a temp agency? i did that for a while. made decent money until i got a job i wanted.

and like squeaky said, don't be afraid to fall back on him. no matter what you'll get by. your a strong woman.

[han-grrl]

trying to find a job...IS a job in itself.

I feel for you, as when i got laid off, right on my 30th birthday, i was very depressed. I had broken up with my fiance at the time, lost my job and had a new car and student loan to pay for...

my new boyfriend told me to get away from the computer job search for a few hours every day. thats when i started working out (4 years ago).
it worked, because a few months later i decided i wanted to change careers...

so be patient, make sure you aren't spending too many hours searching...

also, perhaps a change in your resume may be in order? I changed mine at then got a ton of phone calls. my resume is a skills based resume, meaning i don't list jobs and then the things i did. i list skill categories, and then specifics

e.g. project management skills
-did this
-did that

then at the end of my resume i have a listing of my job titles, companies and dates all in a table.

this type of resume helps the employer see your skills more clearly.

anyway just some thoughts...

chin up!

Hannah

[solobiker]

Good luck out in CO. My DH and just moved back to NY after spending 10years out there. We were about 20 miles north of Denver, kind of near the Boulder area. It was a great place to live and we really enjoyed it.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Working for a temp agency can be a good thing for a while- they do take into account your degree and your particular skills, and they try to match you up with relevant temporary jobs. Often such jobs will lead to something else, or maybe even open new ideas to you for other things you might want to do.

If I recall correctly, it was your boyfriend who wanted to make this move to begin with, and you quit your job to do it, so (in my humble opinion) leaning on him financially for a month or two while you get a new job doesn't seem that unreasonable to me, especially since he makes 3 times as much as you do.

[SalsaMTB]

Don't give up, you'll find the right job. Use any contacts you have and just keep trying. Also, I can't say this enough, but make sure you have a great cover sheet that really sells you. My husband had several interviews just because of his cover letter. I graduated with an electrical engineering degree, worked a couple years with it, hated it, and finally found a job in engineering, but a completely different field. It's hard to change fields once you work a few years somewhere, but it can be done!

[Bikingmomof3]

Think of it as an adventure. You both have thought this through and planned accordingly. You will find the right something for you once you are there. Worst case scenario you pick up an odd job while you are job hunting. To me, it sounds rather exciting. You and your BF moving, not having to worry about young children. Enjoy this time in your life. It goes by all too quickly. Oh, I hope that did not come across as depressing. I love my life (well besides the stroke and TIAs). I just meant having a house, 3 dependent children, and many other lists of things) keeps us from moving back to a lovely state. Enjoy Colorado!! Enjoy this time in your life. Everythig will fall into place. You could always get a temp job teaching snowboarding.

[cherinyc]

you guys are awesome!!!! thanks for all the positivity, you've no idea how much it helps.

[LBTC]

Why can't people just trust me when I say "I will kick A$$ at this job!!!!" ?

Try saying that in an interview! Okay, well, maybe be a little less profane, but you get the idea!

And I like the idea of revamping your resume if you haven't yet. Listing skills and accomplishments is definitely the way to go.

During my recent successful attempt at an in-company interdivisional transfer, I was interviewed for nearly every position I applied for. Some of them were temporary, and when asked about why I would give up full time for temporary, I'd answer "you won't let me leave once I start working for you!"

I had a few serious disappointments along the way, but wouldn't change the job I ended up with now! (Treasury Assistant for a large private company)

You'll do great, the exact right job will be yours at exactly the right time!

oh, and if you'd like another set of eyes to peruse your resume....PM me and I'll take a look.

Hugs and butterflies,
~T~

[hsmpcycle]

I'm a little late in adding a suggestion. I just gave up my career to be a stay at home mom. I often feel very out of place with my new job. Lot of long hours, no break, and the people I work for are very hard to negotiate with.

Once you get to Colorado, check and see what the demand is on substitute teaching (if you like being around kids). They have flexible hours and decent pay. This is a great temp job until you get your dream job.

Lots of luck to you. You will LOVE Colorado.

[chickwhorips]

you know it took me moving to bfe to find two great gov't jobs with two great female bosses.