Dear So and So

[Duck on Wheels]

My Iranian refugee friends have brought with them a splendid tradition for tossing out old trash like this. Some weeks before New Years (Iranian New Year, which is in the early Spring) you plant lots of seeds in pots -- grass seeds, watercress, stuff that greens up fast. On New Years you throw them all out as a symbol of last year's resentments and transgressions, gone, done, over, forgettaboutem. I'm sure there's more to it that this bare bones version, but it does seem a refreshing idea.

[mimitabby]

How about telling them both that for whatever reason, the old garbage is fouling the air and needs to be cleaned out- therefore, if they BOTH write a simple apology note or phone call to the other....this only works if nobody is allowed to try to tell the other that they were wrong, or why they were upset, or start bringing up the whole scenario again.
Just a simple non-judgemental apology and move forward: "I'm sorry that I may have said or done things to upset you. Can we start over?" If you can get them on the phone and make them each read out that sentance (and nothing more), perhaps they can both start fresh.
The problem persists when one person continues to try to prove the other one wrong. It's old trash that needs to be thrown out already.

Lisa, thanks for listening. I am afraid if they actually talk about it my sister is going to continue rehashing and then he is going to get mad and walk out (not on me, on the confrontation)

[mimitabby]

My Iranian refugee friends have brought with them a splendid tradition for tossing out old trash like this. Some weeks before New Years (Iranian New Year, which is in the early Spring) you plant lots of seeds in pots -- grass seeds, watercress, stuff that greens up fast. On New Years you throw them all out as a symbol of last year's resentments and transgressions, gone, done, over, forgettaboutem. I'm sure there's more to it that this bare bones version, but it does seem a refreshing idea.

my sister and my mother are masters of still being mad about what happened to them when they were six. my mother finally dropped all the complaints about her bad childhood after her mother died at the age of 92.
(she'll still start up about it if you ask her though!!)

[KnottedYet]

Dear Universe,

Thank you. I treasure this.

Knot.

[Xrayted]

Dearest *****...

Please grant me the wisdom to guide the one who needs it right now, a strong enough shoulder for her to cry on and a caring heart to help her move on to the best part of her life.

X.

[paigette]

my sister and my mother are masters of still being mad about what happened to them when they were six. my mother finally dropped all the complaints about her bad childhood after her mother died at the age of 92.
(she'll still start up about it if you ask her though!!)

Family drama is the 1 thing I HATE about the holidays!

My uncle's R wife(they got married a few years ago, I don't consider he an aunt...) is pissed off because we are holding Thanksgiving at my other Uncle D's house(they uncle's are twins), so now my Uncle R, his wife & his kids(my cousins) are boycotting T-giving & call my mother(the sister) repeatedly to ***** about it.

[mimitabby]

Family drama is the 1 thing I HATE about the holidays!

My uncle's R wife(they got married a few years ago, I don't consider he an aunt...) is pissed off because we are holding Thanksgiving at my other Uncle D's house(they uncle's are twins), so now my Uncle R, his wife & his kids(my cousins) are boycotting T-giving & call my mother(the sister) repeatedly to ***** about it.

This is happening in a family with TWINS? how super sad!

we're not having a normal thanks giving either. we decided early to have thanksgiving with a cousin, so now my mother is having thxgiving alone (with her husband) which was not our intent.

[paigette]

Yea, the TWIN thing wierds me out.....when I was growing up they ALWAYS had that strong bond. THen this new wife showed up & it's like R. turned off that twin super power or something!

My grams just died a few weeks ago, and mom made sure to tell her brothers & their wives that we need to have at least ONE family get together each year so that the family doesn't disintegrate.......and here it is 3 weeks later & it's already happening!

[chickwhorips]

dear truck that keeps backing up and re-hitting me mentally,
are you done yet? i don't know how much more of this i can take.

[Bluetree]

my sister and my mother are masters of still being mad about what happened to them when they were six. my mother finally dropped all the complaints about her bad childhood after her mother died at the age of 92.
(she'll still start up about it if you ask her though!!)

Mimi, I feel for you.
My mother's family has split up over an argument between two of her brothers and everyone has taken sides. Now, each side has not spoken to each other in over two years, although some live only 10 miles away. It's all about money... my grandparents' inheritance. Had they know that the money would be so devisive, they probably would have given it away to some animal shelter instead.
If there is any positive to come out of this, it is the solemn pledge my brother and I made to each other that we would never allow the same foolishness to come between us.
Family feuds are not easy to live with!

Joy

[crazycanuck]

Dear Ian thorpe,

Thank you for representing Australia in the World Champs, Commonwealth Games & Olympics. I'm sad to hear you've decided to retire. You made the sports crazy Australians proud.

Best of luck in your next endeavours.

thanks
A Canadian Fan

_-----------------

Dear Truck that is going through CWR"s mind..OI..stop at the next stop sign and remove the keys.

thanks

[Xrayted]

Dear past: Please leave our girl alone.
Dear present: Allow her take a breath, relax and be at peace. Let her know that she has all the power within her to rise above and take charge. Help her realize she is loved by many.
Dear future: Teach her to love herself as well. Give her the time to heal, feel strong and move on to better times.


thanks.

[light_sabe_r]

Dear Ian thorpe,

Thank you for representing Australia in the World Champs, Commonwealth Games & Olympics. I'm sad to hear you've decided to retire. You made the sports crazy Australians proud.

Best of luck in your next endeavours.

thanks
A Canadian Fan

Dean Ian

Your achievments are many, your legacy is great. But My favourite memory is of you and your mum eating Tip Top Bread in the lounge room when you were 16 for a TV commercial. lol You and your BIG FEET! Those lethal flippers in the water.

Good on ya Thorpie's Mum!




Dear Old Woman in the emergency X ray room
Thanks for smiling at me today. I hope you feel better soon... I'm passing your smile round the rest of the PA at the moment. ^_^

[crazycanuck]

Dear motorcycle passenger on the Roe Hwy.

Nice shiny high heels !!! Sure hope they stayed on & you made it home.

hmm..

c

[Dogmama]

Xray - beautiful post.