Moms, childhood issues, and certified letters

[lph]

For the record, I certainly wasn't offended Not did I mean to imply that my experience was or should be universal, just telling it the way things panned out for me.

Having kids or not having kids is such a personal choice (and in many cases not a choice at all) that I'm just flabbergasted by people who feel the need to be judgemental about it. Would you believe I got approached once by a total stranger, who admired our single child bike trailer, and then demanded to know why we weren't planning on more kids??

Unfortunately I had no snappy reply ready, like "and exactly why is that any of your business, my dear?", and was just left aaah-ing ineffectually.

[Crankin]

Yes, the comments about one's state of child rearing never cease to amaze me. At various points in my life, I was absolutely firm in the belief that I was going to have no kids, one kid, two kids... people had comments about every one of those decisions.
Now, people comment things like "Oh, you must have been a child bride. Your sons are so grown up."
My DH often gets things like, "Are those your brothers?" when people see pictures of the kids in his office. When he says they are his kids, the response is usually silence, or "How can that be?" This, in spite of the fact he is quite bald on the top of his head, with a lot of gray.
Now people ask when I am going to be a grandmother. It never stops.

[Becky]

Yes, the comments about one's state of child rearing never cease to amaze me.

People astound me when it comes to the topic of children. It's even more "fun" when it's your in-laws who won't leave well enough alone.