coping skills

[OakLeaf]

((((((((red))))))))

What a wonderful memory you were able to make at the best possible time. May the memory of that day lighten your grief.

[mudmucker]

Wow, a very powerful post, based on where you were when this thread started. My condolences to you, and glad that you and your father were able to share those moments together and that it was a good simple day. Those can be the best. This seems to be happening to you lately...making choices that have a turn for the good. (as in the pizza box escapade, uncover crime spree, people get their stolen property back, perps arrested). But this one must really fill your heart.

[shootingstar]

I'm sorry for the loss of your father, redhodie. So glad you spent a great day together with him.

[NbyNW]

So sorry for your loss. I missed this thread last month; I'm glad you got some quality time with your dad while you had the chance.

[Sky King]

Just heading out for a nice ride before it gets hot. I will laugh, smile and enjoy all the beauty around and think of you and your father. Later I will drive to the assisted living and give my father a big hug. Thank you for sharing, you are an amazing woman.

[redrhodie]

Thank you all so much, everyone. Feeling emotionally good today, but physically drained. I'm resting up, and going for ice cream later in Ernie's honor, and you should, too ( if you want an excuse for ice cream). He'd get a kick out of that.

[snapdragen]

Red, I'm glad you had that last perfect day with your dad. Like Indy, you had me in tears...but smiling too. (((((hugs)))))

[indysteel]

Red, DH and I are going for ice cream now. We'll think you and Ernie. Lota of hugs to you.

[rollinat]

Thinking of you - new to the forum and I know that I don't know you, so I hope you don't mind me posting, but your post struck a nerve with me too. Enjoy your ice cream, what a great way to honor your dad.

[Marquise]

I called my mother on her last birthday and it didn't really strike me until I was telling my then-boyfriend (now husband) about it what a special conversation it had been. She died unexpectedly about two months later and somehow all the things we'd talked about and the uncharacteristic things she'd said made sense - not that she knew was going to die but just in the funny way that life can play out I guess. I think because of that conversation I had an easier time with my mom's death than my siblings did. It has been a few years since she died but every so often she's very much alive in my dreams. I was touched by your story about your father and hope the good times you had with him continue to provide comfort.

[VeganBikeChick]

So sorry for your loss, RR. What a wonderful, touching post.

[redrhodie]

Another follow up to this emotional thread.

My father called me in a dream last week, as in, we were speaking on the phone, so I only heard him. He said he was in a good place, and it was really nice there. He actually said it was "awesome". He told me he was getting ready to go to the next place, that he was really excited about it, but he couldn't tell me more, and he already told me too much. He also said not to worry too much, because everything you do that you feel guilty about is forgiven, and that that is really cool. He made the forgiveness sound very beautiful. He sounded really good. He sounded young.

Anyway, dream or something more, it was pretty great.

[OakLeaf]

Wow, red. What an amazing dream/vision. Thanks for sharing it with us.