AG! We need to do Monterey Peninsula again.

[SadieKate]

Uuhhhhhh.....I reeeeally hate to have to say this, but I now have a conflict on the 29th. Eek, darn, and yippee, all in the same sentence.....

Sheesh, she blows through Davis without saying hi and now she tootles off to Mammoth for a wedding. Hmmf.

[slinkedog]

Sheesh, she blows through Davis without saying hi and now she tootles off to Mammoth for a wedding. Hmmf.

I'm feeling incredibly snubbed.

Have fun, BikeMomma! We will miss you, Snap and Spazz.

[Adventure Girl]

OK. Here's the distilled version of the last 9 pages:

YES
aka_kim
bikerz
cindysue
E2theD
Hill Slug (maybe friend)
jobob (+Mr. bob)
SadieKate
slinkedog

MAYBE
dachsund
IndyGal
melody (+Mr. melody)
Susie
Veronica
winddance

Did I miss anybody? Is anybody on the wrong list?

[SadieKate]

My rooomie! aka_kim. She's in charge of finding the Starbucks.

[Adventure Girl]

My rooomie! aka_kim. She's in charge of finding the Starbucks.

Sorry. No offense! All fixed now.

[aka_kim]

Has anyone heard from CindySue? She posted something on the Lunachix newsgroup (? I think that was it) about breaking her collarbone...

[cindysue]

hi everyone,

Sad times right now. In addition to fracturing my collar bone, Andrew and i have broke up (it happened after I returned from vacation). He's a wonderful person and has never treated me with anything but respect. My stubborn independent reserved nature has driven him away. I can't blame him but I feel empty inside and will miss him dearly. This is not the first time this subject has come up in our relationship and he is not interested in counseling. At 36, he believes I am who I am and will not change. I feel like a failure.

We're living together, and I - having taken the summer off - am without work/pay, which makes it difficult to move out. The immobility of my left arm adds another layer of difficulty. I can't bike to de-stress and I am unexcited about the prospect of interviewing right now. Basically, I am an emotional and physical mess. I won't be posting much but I know you will be sending heartfelt wishes my way............

[SadieKate]

Cindy, I wondered about your life in general. Your LunaChix emails had taken on a different tone. Don't feel like a failure. Life just happens. Stay strong. I'm thinking of you.

[Adventure Girl]

Cindy: Sorry to hear about both events. The collar bone will heal in time. And I bet there are a million guys hanging around looking for a gal like you! Personally I find it annoying that you can be so cute and also be sooo nice! But that's just me!

[cindysue]

thanks for your kind remarks and the phone calls. It all helps!


Hmmm. After reading the discussion on whether to post info about biking accidents, I feel obligated to defend my very personal post.

While some of you will find my post too personal and inappropriate for a public forum, my defense is this:

During the relationship, I would not discuss my feelings. I didn’t want to come off as weak. I didn’t want to burden Andrew and others with my life’s stresses. Rather, my feelings were expressed (to Andrew) by being abrupt and rude about trivial issues. I was taking my stress out on Andrew in a most unjustifiable way and he has finally had enough.

While on the trip with Veronica I was compelled to talk to her about the communication issues in my relationship (seeing how close she and Thom are), but didn’t. Too personal, I thought. I don’t want to burden her with *my* issues.

Following the break up, I contacted no one. Too embarrassed by the feeling that I have lost such a great guy due to my stubborn reluctance to express my feelings.

Finally, seeing my distress, Andrew insisted I talk to friends and I am beginning that process. Putting things in writing in such a public way forces me to acknowledge that I am hurt and is a way for me to overcome my reserve in expressing my feelings. “Yes World, I am human and my life is not perfect.”

For those who take exception to such public expression, my apologies for the offense.

Often this forum is welcoming and a joy to read. Other times, I feel ridiculed for my opinions and feelings.

[Bike Goddess]

Cindy Sue- Thank you for telling us what is happening with you. I am glad you can begin to open up it will help heal the hurt you have been carrying around for how many years now?

I'll get in touch with you soon.
xxxx 0000
Nancy

[snapdragen]

Oh Cindy, I'm sorry to hear this. You are not a failure; please don't beat yourself up. Your TE and real life friends are all here for you.

[Bike Goddess]

Re ride- have to work that Saturday so I can ride the Marin double metric! maybe next time....

[Adventure Girl]

OK. Here's the distilled version of the last 9 pages:

YES
aka_kim
bikerz
cindysue
E2theD
Hill Slug (maybe friend)
jobob (+Mr. bob)
SadieKate
slinkedog

MAYBE
dachsund
IndyGal
melody (+Mr. melody)
Susie
Veronica
winddance

Did I miss anybody? Is anybody on the wrong list?

Revised list as of Monday, July 24th. This is becoming a huge disappointment! It seems like something that is planned sooooo far in advance wouldn't end up being just a handful of people. I understand some of the canceling (especially Cindy's broken collarbone and Susie still not being fully recovered from getting hit by a truck ), but this group really dropped.

The spreadsheet had 12.5 points for July 29th. That meant 12 yes and 1 maybe. I have asked 2 friends to be leaders/helpers. Maybe I shouldn't ask them to give up their day for this little event.

YES
aka_kim
bikerz
jobob (+Mr. bob)
SadieKate
slinkedog

MAYBE - still waiting to hear from
dachsund
melody (+Mr. melody)
Veronica
winddance

[Veronica]

I'm working on the man. I'd like to turn it into a little get away for us. We didn't do anything for our 20th anniversary, so I'm kinda playing that card. Of course I'll want to use it again.. . some other weekend.

Looking at the group, I suspect you could do it w/o other ride leaders. All the folks on the list are reasonably intelligent people and good riders.

V.