Quote Originally Posted by Lise

The date tonight is dinner and a concert in a small venue: http://www.corderomusic.com/ that's the band. My brother sent me their CD and said, "Go see them! They are coming to your town!" He literally called, emailed, and wrote me that I have to go see them. He'll be in town for my b-day next week, so you know I have to go. When Mr. P. called, I suggested we go do that. We haven't actually spoken--the miracle of cell phones. We hadn't talked for 10 days--I figured he wasn't interested, and it was OK with me. But then he called and wanted to see if I wanted to get together, remembered my bday ( a week early), which impressed me with thoughtfulness, so...OK. We shall see.

(Why must the cat sit with his tail over my wrist when I'm typing? He's lying ontop of the mouse, with his tail resting my wrist, the tip flicking back and forth over the keyboard. An added degree of difficulty with the typing.)

Kelownagirl, how'd you avoid the dating? I was with my ex for 6 years, in a sort of stunned celibacy for 4 years after that, then started dating on line. Was with one guy for 7 months, that ended a year ago April. This go-round has been tough. Back in April my heart got pretty sore over a sudden disappearance by a guy I was pretty interested in. I am done with the online stuff for the time being. This current guy (I believe fishdr dubbed him "Mr. Potential) is an intro from a friend at work. I really am fine being single, but I would like so much to be part of a happy couple. It's been a looong time. I haven't really been happy in my love life since the early years with my ex, about 10-12 years ago. Hope springs eternal.
Mr. P. sounds like he really DOES have potential - remembering your birthday and all. Hope it goes well tonight!

I managed to avoid the dating scene in a most unexpected way. My first date about a month after the separation was with a teacher I work with. I went to the staff xmas party as his date on a lark. Turns out we hit it off in a most amazing way. It's surprising how little you can know about someone you work with. Neither of us had ever thought about one another "in that way," and in fact, we've known each other as neighbours, our kids went to school together etc, for over 15 years. So, he was my friend before he was the love of my life. Two years later, we're still together, planning to get married eventually. I'm in no rush other than that it's kind of weird since we still both teach at the same school and everyone now knows we're together... Being legally married might make things a bit more "comfortable." Anyway, I certainly don't envy you having to play the field again. Some of the stories my single friends have told me make me shudder. The online thing is an entirely new angle that wasn't there when I was last single...