Well, I made my purchase. Scary making it online, but they have a 15 day return policy, so if its aweful ill return it. I totally get what you're saying about hating the way you look in pics! I really would like to feel proud of the way i look!

I made the decision based on the inseem. I really wanted at least an 8 inch for my legs that like to rub together, and the one womens suit that offered that was the Sugoi Wireless Tri Suit (8.5), but it was hard to find because its last years stock.
This is how it stacked up. I made a list of all the suits i liked that came in at least an XL, in case anyone else is looking (my pics wont show up here, but you can google them):

Sugoi Fuel Tri Suit - sizes up to XL - inseem 7 in - about $99.95 - no built in bra http://www.teamestrogen.com/images/p...4F-ALL_xlg.jpg

Sugoi Wireless Tri Suit - Women's, up to XL, 3 colors, inseem 8.5 -69.99 in white from http://kozy.com/itemdetails.cfm?ID=4...lert=OK&#alert
99.99 in purple from http://bicyclesportshop.com/itemdeta...ogId=1&id=6704

Danskin Womens' Triathlon Zip Front Suit - sizes through xxl - 7inch inseem
TYR Trisuit - Women's Triathlon Skin Suit - sizes through XL - inseem 7- no bra- $91.95 http://www.teamestrogen.com/products.asp?pID=20190

Danskin Triathlon Flower Power Zip Front Suit- sizes through XXL - inseem 7 -Price: $75.00

IN MENS:
TYR Trisuit - Men's Triathlon Skin Suit (S-XL)- sizes through XL - inseem 9
Sugoi Fuel Tri Suit (Mens) - sizes through XL- inseem 9-Price: $99.95

I got the Sugoi Wireless Tri Suit in white.. i'll let you know how it works!