Quote Originally Posted by Trek420
Do mixed marriages (bikers with non bikers) work?

I think we've covered this before but not in a while and not in this way.
My husband isn't a hugely athletic guy, but I have tried to keep him involved in my activities so he doesn't feel left out. I had him try snowboarding with me, which worked for a while, but it just wasn't his thing. He stayed supportive, though, and became my "ski caddy" He's done the same thing with running. Not a big runner, but comes to events that I do and gives me support. I can't see him doing a triathlon, but he's there with me at least.

Bikes are something we can do together; even if he doesn't have the same amount of endurance right now he is willing to go for a ride with me on weekends, and I compromise about distances and where we go depending on conditions. A lot of times I'll let him stop for a rest and go pedal another extra few miles hard, loop back around and enjoy our time together on the return trip.

He enjoys things that I don't invest my time in, like video games and some other non-athletic stuff, but I make a point to "be there" for his adventures just like he is there for mine, listening to him talk and being an active member of discussions with him so we can always find common ground. Sometimes our different priorities might be a point of contention, but I try to focus on not sweating the small stuff and compromising. If it's not worth arguing about, don't.

I also have found having other people around that I can do things with helps take a little bit of the pressure off of him to not feel like he has to do everything with me, and makes me not bug him so much to go do things with me all the time It also helps when we both schedule something at the same time, so we don't feel left out of each others' activities. Honestly, if we weren't smart about how we did it, I would be really lonely. I really like to do things *with* someone, so it's hard for me to enjoy something by myself all the time.

I've never heard of a bike date. When I was dating (college) it might not have been something I considered, but if I was in that position now I think it'd be fun. My dad would probably kick me if I suggested he try it, but then we're not in a hugely densely populated area so it might be harder to find. I also like the bike club suggestion -- just like any other club or group, you can enjoy other peoples' company and use that as an opportunity to do the first round of voting potential candidates off the podium