Quote Originally Posted by fixedgeargirl
I still have my moments of wondering what I did to deserve this, heck, I have a lifetime of wallowing in self-pity behind me. But I feel so much stronger when I think in terms of "What am I taking away from this? What lesson have I learned?" In my case, I have learned to stand up for myself, to like who I am and not someone else's version of who I could be if I would only let them "help" me . I know I will never repeat my Relationship from Hades, and have gained boatloads of self-respect from being completely disrespected by my ostensible partner. I believe these relationships happen for a reason, though I'm still trying to figure out what possible good could come out of me not being able to move back to my hometown thanks to X and his filing a custody suit here in boiling hot Texas...
Well... I certainly have learned something. I learned that I can't pick a husband and should never be married again.

And, I didn't let his screwing me over ruin my life. I picked myself up, dusted myself off and got a plan for success.

Honestly, my life is 100 times better since he left... and I have everything I need (well, I do NEED a new road bike and nice little tri bike, HA!). Not to mention that I am accomplishing goals and living out my dreams.

I am happy to hear that you took something away from your relationship and that you are better person for it. That's always a good thing!

Sorry you gotta live in Texas... although... I rather like it myself!