My daughter was also plagued with pain in the "girly bits" after long rides. When she visited me this last weekend, we went to a couple of well-stocked bike stores and she tried saddles. The stores had them mounted on seat posts so they could set them up on bikes in the blink of an eye. Some stores put the saddles on a stationary bike (a bike on a trainer stand); some let her ride out on a bikepath nearby. The saddles felt very different indeed! I tried a few! We both found the same one to be our favourite, but this all depends on your personal bone and soft part structures. I recommend that you find a good bike store and try saddles. The right saddle may solve your problem.