Dear So and So

[Pax]

Dear men on another forum,

Newsflash, just because you think/want it is so doesn't make it so, your mind boggling privilege is showing.

Sincerely,

Utterly disgusted by bigots

[Pax]

Uh oh. What happened?

Just endless passive aggressive refusing to call Caitlyn Jenner Caitlin, loudly applauding the vote in Houston this week, and going on and on with their usual "this is the end of our country as we know it" BS because, heaven forbid, gays or trans people have any rights. It gets very old.

[Pax]

Yeah, it does.

I've gotten to the point where I just refuse to read crap like that. You can't change narrow-minded, uneducated, low-intelligence people.

Saw an article recently that said middle aged white americans are committing suicide more than any other group, it indicated it was skewing towards less educated people... I can see this, so many angry, intolerant, hateful people that hold on to their bigotry even when proven wrong over and over and over. It must be depressing to always think everything sucks.

[emily_in_nc]

Saw an article recently that said middle aged white americans are committing suicide more than any other group, it indicated it was skewing towards less educated people... I can see this, so many angry, intolerant, hateful people that hold on to their bigotry even when proven wrong over and over and over. It must be depressing to always think everything sucks.

I read the same article. But I'm pretty sure it said men were the ones killing themselves.

I believe it. I've known of four male expats (three in Belize, one here in Playa) to kill themselves just in the past couple of years. In their case I don't think any of it was related to bigotry (one was gay, fer instance) but just deep depression. One was an Afghanistan veteran in his early 40s, so undoubtedly some PTSD there. I just find it very tragic when people see no other alternative. And I think people often come to other countries to "escape to a better place", and when they find out, as you do, that you bring your problems with you no matter where you go, they can't handle it.

[Crankin]

More women attempt suicide, but more men actually complete it.
I find that I am getting angry, too, but at all the stupid azz bigots in the world! I now have 2 trans clients, and one woman whose daughter is questioning. It has been a privilege to work with these people, help them on their journey, and learn about something that is outside my experience. Sometimes, I wonder why I can tolerate differences, when others are so prejudiced against anything that isn't within their frame of reference. Ugh. I guess it's mostly because my parents were pretty cool about stuff and my formative years were spent in a super liberal environment.

[rebeccaC]

Just endless passive aggressive refusing to call Caitlyn Jenner Caitlin, loudly applauding the vote in Houston this week, and going on and on with their usual "this is the end of our country as we know it" BS because, heaven forbid, gays or trans people have any rights. It gets very old.

I rarely respond to those things posted online….my little way of denying some oxygen to those messages…but if I do it’s usually with kindness, a calm and intelligent response and even with thanks by pointing out those views just allow fair and reasonably minded people to more clearly see the person and those ideas for what they are.

But then….isn’t it a known fact that reason and humanism are just seductive tools of that ever crafty Satan.

[Pax]

Yeah, Rebecca, these are guys I've "known" online for years. In the beginning I was kind and gentle, over time they've become so full of hate and self righteousness that I no longer even bother to reply. They are just miserable human beings, many I've met IRL over the years but now would actively avoid at any gathering. They take up a cause like "Bruce is still a man so I'll call HIM that forever" and they actually seem to enjoy the discord they sow. Sad and disconcerting times, but I suppose people have always been this way... they just now have a global sounding board rather than their local watering hole of yesterday.