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[Crankin]

When my blonde hair got really brown, I started highlighting it, until I cut it short. Now I just get it colored every 8 weeks. I really have very little grey, just a few strands near my temple, in the part. The blonde makes it invisible. I have no intention of going grey for a long time. First I thought I'd consider it at 65, but now that doesn't seem so far away. Maybe 70? I know we've discussed this here ad nauseum. My take is that if you have beautiful skin and coloring, grey can look OK. Between my freckles and other stuff, no thank you. I may be seen as vain, but the whole idea of looking old creeps me out. I have good genes and pray for the best. I don't want to look 20 or 30, just as nice as my grandmothers looked when they died at 91 and 92. My mom looked super young for her age, until right before she got sick and died quite young, at 67. I don't need to make friends with my new neighbors, just be nice and say hi. From what I've seen, they won't be joining me on 50 mile rides or at Tabatta.

[OakLeaf]

I hate to even say it, but I think it's wise to have a pool of non-athletic friends, if for no other reason than just in case. When I got hurt, a lot of my social life went right out the window. It was kind of a double whammy, and not a good one.

[Crankin]

I do have non-athletic friends, Oak. It's been an effort for me to maintain the friendships, but I've known them for 25 years. One thing that's different for me now, as opposed to when I was younger, is that I am not friends with people I work with. I used to socialize a lot with other teachers, but as the years went by, that got less and less. There is one woman from my old school that I am in contact with and that I see a few times a year. The others are just Facebook friends now! She actually is pretty active, and we usually go on local hikes or go out to dinner.
I guess I never realized what a sub culture there is in the place I live. I was sort of aware of a large number of older women in West Concord village, when I went to the natural foods store (the place you went to), but I didn't realize they all lived around there. Since I consciously planned not to buy a condo in an over 55 place, it seems like that happened despite my decision. We did look at a place in a huge complex that was very diverse in terms of age, etc., but it needed a ton of work and did have a more apartment like feel. And that has a rep as the place where all of the divorced men go.

[OakLeaf]

the place where all of the divorced men go.

Ha!

[Crankin]

Yeah, it's true. At least a few from my synagogue that I know.
I am going to use this forum as my rant space. What kind of person becomes a "stager?", as in the person that comes to your house, before you put it up for sale and tells you all kinds of stuff that doesn't really apply to me. This woman has been told that we are minimalists, we will take all personal photographs down, there are no pets, and no kids have ever lived here. Some of the other things are: 90% of stuff of the kitchen counter should be gone, must have decorative pillows on the beds (as well as 2 pillows on a twin bed), and white sheets. Are they kidding? I don't have decorative anything. I do have 4 pillows on our bed, but the kids' beds (20 and 30 years old) only have one. No white sheets. No rugs, either. OK, I'll take the bath mat out of my bathroom, and leave a puddle of water for the open house. I put away the food processor and stuck the knives in a cabinet. It was very clear no knives should be out (Why? Do they fear murder?). Leaving the toaster oven, can opener, and ceramic holder with cooking utensils out. Gee, I actually cook, almost every night. And she better not touch my coffee/espresso machine.
This woman is coming with people to "move stuff." They won't be moving anything here. We don't have too much stuff!
DH told her that I may not be here, as I am not a fan. Some of this is common sense stuff, but really, have people become so weird that having a bath mat out would make them not buy a house? All of the other townhomes we looked at had tons of ugly stuff and personal pictures, except the one we bought, as they have already moved. The first house we bought in Massachusetts had ants in the dishwasher and a junk car in the yard.
On a fun note, I cleaned out my desk at home, and found lots of cool pictures of some of my classes when I was teaching. I can barely remember some of the kids, and it hasn't been that long.

[Pax]

HGTV has changed the game, everyone thinks they have to have granite countertops and an "open concept main floor". The whole thing irritates me, a generation or so ago parents raised a family in a small 2-3 bedroom house with one bathroom, now everyone in the family "needs" their own bathroom.

I guess I understand why so many people, when asked about retirement, reply "I can never retire, can't afford it".

[shootingstar]

HGTV has changed the game, everyone thinks they have to have granite countertops and an "open concept main floor". The whole thing irritates me, a generation or so ago parents raised a family in a small 2-3 bedroom house with one bathroom, now everyone in the family "needs" their own bathroom.

Yea I grew up a house with 1 bathroom for 8 people. In southern Ontario.
For a private conversation, I sometimes had to sit on the bathroom floor and close the door? What does one expect of a teenager? REally no more weirder than people on cellphone in bathroom.

And yes we had 1 phone in house.

I'm beginning to sound "old". But there are still enough people who live like this in North America.

I still have lots in common with long-time non-athletic friends. However still, they try to be active themselves. I think we have inspired each other over the years.... Professionally 2 closest friends who graduate from the same faculty, same university, same year 3 of us..have taken risk to have worked for several different(5-8) employers, have moved cities for jobs and hence, haven't built up comfy pension for early retirement, from working for only 1-2 employers.

[emily_in_nc]

Probably depends on how competitive the market is where you are. In a seller's market, you wouldn't need to do all that crap, just keep it neat and tidy and de-cluttered -- and that's more than most sellers do. In a buyer's market, then yes, I can see that you might have to do more. But really, white sheets only and some of that other stuff is just silly to me. I do agree, though, that HGTV shows like "House Hunters" have raised buyer's expectations, at least in certain parts of the country.

And of course, you don't have to do anything at all, but if you want to sell faster and for top dollar...still, we have never had anyone but our listing agent give us advice (which usually amounted to "you're doing everything right, no need to change a thing"). We've never had a stager. I guess that's what they're paid to do, so they feel that they have to offer advice, even if you're actually doing everything (or close to it) right.