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[rebeccaC]

Oh, but I agree. She looks fine to me, but I'm all in favour of a clear dress code that actually is enforced. What I'm not in favour of is unclear or vague dress codes.

..and being strict on NOT using shame, blame or humiliation in the process of dealing with an infraction… and also for a productive learning environment for all students start by teaching them to respect each other’s bodies and to do that regardless of what their peers are wearing…..and have honest discussions about the hyper sexualization of American culture and it’s effect on girls and boys….and how problematic normalizing the notion that girls bodies are distractions can be to young girls…and how fetishizing the number of inches between the hem of a skirt and the top of a knee is perverse…teach them that women wearing shorts in public was illegal in a number of U.S. cities up until the 1950's...about when a women showing a ankle or god forbid a leg was seen as an advertisement for adultery...and how preparing students to become independent thinkers is what's important.

…but then if I was told my bare shoulders and back from wearing a halter top to school caused distractions to boys then I’d say those boys needed to be sent home until they’ve learned enough self control to come back. That kind of distraction messaging lands itself squarely on a continuum that can also blame girls and women for assault by men…it’ll be her fault for wearing tight pants, or a belly shirt, or short skirt, or for drinking too much, or walking alone etc etc…

hoping things improve for you rnrgirl....i'm sure there are some problems in some schools...my problem is with how it is handled and how young girls can be affected in a negative way by how it is handled. as i wrote earlier in this thread building positive self-identity by parents, school administrators writing dress codes and especially doing enforcement or through peers is a component i see as important. I have a cousin who went through this a couple of years ago in her high school. She and some of her friends caused some positive changes in the way the school addressed the problems. We had some good conversations about it at the time...and it was a good learning experience for her.