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[Crankin]

I am worried about my brother. I called him twice yesterday and texted once. He's doing everything right for himself, but still, I worry. I told DS #2 to please go down and visit him this weekend, but of course, not sure if he can.

[IBrakeforPastry]

My condolences, Crankin.

[OakLeaf]

Crankin, hugs to you and your family. Will you be able to spend some time with your brother soon?



Snap, yay!

[Crankin]

Not really, Oak. I invited him to come for Thanksgiving, and he said he would look into getting the time off (he's a manager for Home Depot), which might be hard for him at that time of year. Plus, he took 2 "vacations" to deal with my dad in June and early July. We'll be gone for 2 weeks in October for our tour, so November seemed the next time. I spoke with him yesterday, he said he was fine and that work was good for him. He told DS that he didn't need anything, but I know DS will still try to visit him, despite his incredible busy schedule (did I mention my son is hosting a newly arrived Afghani man, who was his translator, his wife, and 4 year old ... in a 2 bedroom house, as well starting his jr. year in school, transferred to Army Reserves to keep his pension, and is doing ROTC?).
I will just keep calling my brother and texting him. It probably reminds him of my mom!

[Pax]

I was away for the computer for a stretch and missed this. Crankin, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. My condolences.

[Crankin]

Thanks
ETA:
Every conversation I have with my brother is different, which sort of models what his mood is like; of course he was like this before my dad's situation declined. If anything, we talk a lot more now. I told him I didn't want him to feel like I was being intrusive and he said of course not, I wasn't, but I am not calling everyday anymore. Only one conversation kind of raised my concern level, and I basically told him to get his azz into the shower and get dressed after he told me he hadn't bathed for his 2 days off, which is totally unlike him. He thanked me.
He can't come for Thanksgiving, as others have already put in for the time off. We decided he should come in the spring, when the weather gets nicer. Right now he's concentrating on doing things in his home, which he's been in for a couple of years, but he hasn't done much work on. He's also dealing with his beautiful garden, which has been destroyed by the drought in San Diego.
I'd love for him to find a partner, but I know that's not the answer for everything.

[Sky King]

I am worried about my brother. I called him twice yesterday and texted once. He's doing everything right for himself, but still, I worry. I told DS #2 to please go down and visit him this weekend, but of course, not sure if he can.

I was the caregiving child for both of my folks. Some of the nicest things one of my siblings, who lives 500 miles away did. -
sent me flowers thanking me for being there
bought me a gift certificate for a massage
sent me cards telling me how much I was appreciated.

Sounds like you are there for him, which is great but for some reason getting something physical that was just for me meant alot, especially after my last parent passed away.

Thinking of you!