...right out of your hair!

[fixedgeargirl]

And Trek, don't be concerned about being a tad shallow around the edges. Even the ocean is shallow around the edges.

Golden! I love it ! My relationship with stbx has really been over for years, trying to hold it together for the kid. I checked out emotionally a long time ago, I've done the grieving for the connection we once had and have spent a lot of time musing about what a healthy-for-me relationship will look like. I tend to recoil from some of my more shallow *requirements* , like it's shameful to desire those things. I remind myself that it's important to be honest with myself, judgements be damned. Aim for the stars, accept the moon, or something like that .

I, too, went into this relationship with that, "look, I'm good enough to be with HIM!" attitude. Oh, how done I am with that line of thinking! This is only the second relationship I've had my entire life, but I've learned a lifetime of lessons about myself and what is good for me. This thread has been great validation and inspiration for me as I set forth on the next leg of my journey.

You ladies rock!!!!!!!!!!

[KnottedYet]

Trek420: if you do a road trip to the San Juans, make SURE you look up the rest of us while you're here!

[Trek420]

will do! I'm in process of interviewing a dog sitter suitable for Mae so in the next year or so....road trips!