Lise, I've been reading this thread and that's the thought that popped into my head. "If you build it they will come". What to build? Yourself! Work at being healthy (biking, of course) and happy. Do what makes you happy. Walk around knowing that you are a great person, and people are better for knowing you. When you do that, you will find others will start recognizing your self confidence, and your happiness. That is sexy. Then when you aren't even thinking about it, "they will come"!!! Be happy being you. That's the most important thing. Everything else is just icing on the cake!!!

Have a wonderful life!!