Thanks Crankin. I will forget the body language then, but if it happens with a third bike dude who is single too I will be puzzled for sure.

Can I ask you a question about dating. With Bike Dude #1, when I met him in a group ride I wasn't thinking men at all because I was in deep grieving. Our bike rides went from group rides to just him and I, and we biked a lot out of his town, about 20 miles from me. When I put together a ride, I am about the terrain, get in the hills, get in the distance, keep my speed up, and limit my stops. When this guy put together the rides, it all seemed to be about stopping at rural park benches along with small town coffee shops, so there is always a lot of sitting around chatting and getting to know each other. Eventually I gained some awareness and talked with the members of my all-female training group and they said that the rides seemed real date-like. So I told the fellow one day that we are platonic friends. I had to, I was in mourning and not thinkng about men. He didn't go away and here it is winter in Oregon with temperatures on the bike below 40 degrees and we are getting together and biking, plus all of the communications from him, just about every day. The problem on my end is that all of those chats on the benches and coffee shops and the communications got me to know him, and I've ended up liking him, now that I am out of mourning. I am rather annoyed by it because I think I was wooed and I didn't realize it, never saw it coming, just wasn't thinking men, was only thinking what an odd way to have a bike ride with all of the stops to sit and chat, just him and I. I mean seriously, did anyone else get over 12 texts from a single bike dude on Christmas Day? It is a first for me.

And that is why the body language happening again with the second bike dude who is single too got me worried, that maybe it is an alert for me that I may have to contend with another bike dude who shows interest.

The ride with bike dude #2 was only on Monday. Bike dude #1 introduced me to his Monday riding group. I rode with the group, nice people, though they ride real slow. Then this last Monday I show up for the ride and it is raining of course. Bike dude #1 sent me a text cancelling because he wasn't feeling well. I am standing there waiting for the group to show up and only bike dude #2 shows. I introduce myself, ask him to lead as I don't know the area, and off we go. I beat him up some hills, he pulls then I pull, he beats me up some hills, and at a stop at the top of a hill about 80% through the route is when he exhibits the same body language with the leg gyrations and head swiveling and I go oh no. After the ride bide dude #1 finds that I rode only with bike dude #2 and I get a frenzy of texts from him, then again on Wednesday.

I need to know when a single bike dude thinks a ride is a date versus a ride. I have no clue!