And... you can be celibate and share quarters with people who give you that security, too ( the emotional kind as well as the ones to bring you drinks and aspirin when you have the flu and come out and get you when cars take off your friends' back tire on the corners). I've maintained that I've been single for so long because I keep forgetting to be unhappy about it... and finding a guy smart enough to keep up with me and dumb enough to put up wiht me is a bit of a challenge :=-)