...right out of your hair!

[Trek420]

where's that thread, ah, here:

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showt...ghlight=praise

there can be advantages to cycling single, and the bike can cure so many ills. I agree with Knottedyet, always seem to meet the best people when we stop looking.

And then you'll have the most amazing legs

When you do find a single, sane, non-stupid, non-sedentary guy, ask him if he has a sister in the Bay Area you can introduce me to will ya?

[bikerz]

Hey Lise - sounds like a great ride! And the perfect attitude!

I'm suddenly single after my 14-year relationship ended - and totally dreading sidling into the dating scene as a 40-something (good grief - I was still in my 20's last time I was single!)

But a friend of mine told me way back then that I hadn't met my next partner because they were still busy getting ready for me. I found it a helpful way to think - it kind of took the pressure off, and who knows, maybe it was even true!

Meanwhile ride, ride, ride and give that really great guy time to get ready for you!

[Trek420]

bikerz sez "a friend of mine told me...I hadn't met my next partner because they were still busy getting ready for me. I found it a helpful... - it kind of took the pressure off, and who knows, maybe it was even true!"

I dunno about that, I've given the next ms Trek over 50 years now to get ready to go. Cheezits, how long's it take the gal? I didn't think I'm that complex or demanding.

But on the other hand good theory, whatever takes the pressure off is ok by me.

OT I think Queen and her DP are on the road as we speak headed for the sunshine and Southwest. Maybe they will bring the sun this way.

[Lise]

Hey Lise - sounds like a great ride! And the perfect attitude!

I'm suddenly single after my 14-year relationship ended - and totally dreading sidling into the dating scene as a 40-something (good grief - I was still in my 20's last time I was single!)

But a friend of mine told me way back then that I hadn't met my next partner because they were still busy getting ready for me. I found it a helpful way to think - it kind of took the pressure off, and who knows, maybe it was even true!

Meanwhile ride, ride, ride and give that really great guy time to get ready for you!

Sorry to hear about the end of what you'd put so much time and love into. I hope that next one is getting ready and looking for me...I learned, and will keep learning, a lot about myself in the past month. Hope it makes me more ready to be discerning and open to the next "right" one. Same for you, for us all. L.

[betagirl]

I too wonder how you talk on the phone and rollerblade at the same time....

Guy demons be gone!

[Trek420]

betagirl "Guy demons be gone!"

wouldn't that make a great name for a Shampoo as in "It'll wash that man right outa your..."

[Grog]

Hey Lise,

I found this out of the cellar archives. Enjoy the passages about "fit".

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showthread.php?t=3194

Ride on girl!!

[Lise]

Thanks for the link, Grog. Good reading. I've been reflecting, this week, on my desire for the prestige of having a partner. The old idea that "I'll show the world I'm OK because so-and-so wants to be with me." What an abuse of another human being that really is. This guy who disappeared did not fit well with me, obviously. He had external aspects that met my desire for prestige and security. He reminded me of my dad, in good ways. He looks good on paper. We had physical "chemistry". He is an ex-pro baseball player, and listens to/watches sports a lot. But he showed no interest in my athletic endeavors. There would be no rides or runs with this guy. I was already wondering how I was going to date him and train for triathlons and my first century ride this summer.

He just did me a favor by taking himself out of the picture sooner rather than later. I would've appreciated the dignity of "good-bye", but there's another piece of evidence that we were not a good fit.

I stayed with my abusive ex for 5 years longer than I should have. The first episode of physical violence should have been the last. Of course, I had just sold all my furniture and moved in and told everybody that at last I'd found my soul mate, blah, blah, blah. Prestige. Couldn't admit I was wrong. What a powerful skill that is. To be able to say, "I was wrong".

By the time I was out of that, I was 30# overweight, I'd cut my hair to within an inch of my scalp, etc, every outward manifestation of misery possible. I found some new friends who are active, healthy, and working the 12 step program I've been part of for 21 years now, but had let that practice slide. So, now, six years later, here I am. An athlete. I'm active in my own spiritual and physical well-being. My hair's below my shoulders, and I can walk away from an unhappy end to a dating relationship with dignity and some sense of humor. Here sure beats there!

Here's to all of us who know the value of a good hard ride on a beloved bike. L.

[Lise]

where's that thread, ah, here:

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showt...ghlight=praise

When you do find a single, sane, non-stupid, non-sedentary guy, ask him if he has a sister in the Bay Area you can introduce me to will ya?

Thanks, Trek, that was a fun read! I'll definitely keep my ears out for that fabulous sister in the Bay Area. Only my aversion to long-distance relationships will keep me from flying out to check her out myself! L.