cyclingnewbie and all newbies - don't, don't, don't give up on trying to get the comfy fit right! Just keep trying (sounds cheesey!) I know it's frustrating, been there myself and ocassionally go back whenever I have to switch to a new saddle (like now, cuz they discontinued my old one) or find shorts. Of course, there are those days when it all just "isn't!"
And many of us 'old timers' can tell stories of when saddles were two selections - superwidetractorsize or incredibly narrow floss width. Or the jerseys that were butt cupping/too long, shorts that "X" marked the spot--of pain! And just plain ugerlie too
But you'll reach it - whoo hoo - and you'll know it!