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[Catrin]

When does your lease term end, Catrin? I'm not sure I understand how/why your landlord is forcing you to essentially leave now versus the end of your lease. Granted, I would need to read your lease, but I have a hunch that they're trying to do something they're not allowed to do, either under the lease or Indiana law. It seems to me that you should be able to stay in your apartment, paying the same rent as you always have, until the lease expires. At that point, they can raise your rent or you can choose to vacate. But to force you to commit to a new lease now or immediately vacate sounds like a quasi-eviction to me. I'd be tempted to call their bluff if I were you. But I realize that's stressful, and perhaps they really are within their rights. But it smells to me.

My wording must have left the wrong impression, sorry about that. The owners require a 2-month formal notice before the lease is up. So, while I am not moving until September, I must give notice 4 weeks from now unless I want to pay a huge penalty. This is spelled out in my lease and I knew that coming into this. I will not, however, give that formal notice unless I've something already arranged, that just isn't responsible and I can't swing that penalty. I've already been sort of looking for the last month or so and been very disappointed with my options...until today. I've worked out my budget between now and the move to make certain I will have what I need, now it will just take some discipline!

I just had a heart to heart with a friend who works in the office, and come to find out they just manage for the owners. I've been perplexed at some policy changes that appear to be focused on driving people away from the complex -which hasn't been their style in the 3 years I've been here. She tells me that I am just one of many planning on moving this year, and for the same reason. Apparently the actual owners are unhappy the property isn't making as much as they think it should, but the changes certainly isn't going to help THAT! Meh, I am over it. September can't come soon enough, but I will enjoy this last summer living across the street from my favorite local park!

[emily_in_nc]

Glad it looks like you might have a good option for another place, Catrin, though moving is never fun, like you say.

When we lived in an apartment in Chapel Hill they raised our rent substantially after our first lease term (just 9 months) expired. Since our condo still wasn't quite finished, we had no choice to pay it as we only needed three more months, and it certainly wasn't worth moving for that amount of time. The management company had also changed in our short time there, and the new company was a real pain in the butt. I knew of quite a few people who were planning to leave at the end of their current lease, including four others in our building -- and they all did. I am sure they're still finding plenty of people to rent there as it is a nice complex in a great location, but the people who had been there for much longer than us were very unhappy with all the changes put into place once the former, friendlier company got taken over by a larger, more "corporate" apartment management group. Yuk.

Good luck to you!

[skhill]

Is it something in the water around here? About a month ago a dear friend and his wife separated, after nearly 40 yrs of marriage. His friends could see it coming for a long time, but it's still a surprise when a couple that's been together that long call it quits. And then last night, another couple, both friends, announced via facebook that they were separating. They've been married almost 20 yrs, and no one had a clue that there was anything seriously wrong. He had cancer a few years back, now in complete remission, and that sent them into bankruptcy, but they had seemed to be doing really well together over the past year or so. Sigh. It's sad to see all this...

But on the other hand, I'm going to the 55th anniversary party for another couple this weekend. They're just hoping they both live long enough for this state to repeal our anti-marriage amendment so they can have their marriage officially recognized. It should be a great party!

[Crankin]

Every single couple we were close friends with in AZ are now divorced. One I could predict in 1990, but the others, no. One was married 33 years.
Everyone else from there we were friends with who are still married, moved away, like we did.
Yes, something in the water.

[NbyNW]

The wait is killing me ...

I ordered my new bike about 10 days ago, and they said it would be in middle of this week. I called Friday to check on the status, and they said they would look into it. Turns out, my bike was sent to the wrong store. They are hoping they will have it on Monday. I will probably not have a chance to pick it up until Friday, at the earliest. Boo.

[Crankin]

Tomorrow is going to be an interesting day for me. In the morning, we are leading the 29 mile ride for our club's bike rally. Then, at night, we are going to a group celebration of my high school class' collective 60th birthdays. This is not the school I graduated from, but the school I would have graduated from, had I not moved to Florida. So, it's really all the people I grew up with, until I was almost 16. It's a casual, appetizers and drinks thing, not a formal reunion. Already some drama going on, sort of under the radar, which is why DH is going with me!
Yesterday, one of my dear friends from age 12 on called me and asked me what I was wearing. I burst out laughing and said, "Gee, I don't know. What should we wear to the dance?"

[Crankin]

The party was awesome. Everyone has mellowed. I reconnected with a friend who also had moved away, right after I did, and I had not seen her for almost 45 years! She lives in LA, but has had a life eerily similar to mine, including moving back to NY for a few years, so her kids could have the same environment growing up, as she did (which is almost the same thing I said to her about my choices).
The drama that I thought was happening, was true. A FB romance developing between my ex-bf and another person who also moved away. He's recently separated after a long marriage; see, these things can even happen when you are 60!