It's so goood to hear from you Mimi. You could never be an impostor here. No matter how much or little you ride, you done your time in the saddle. You're good for life.

I think maybe the reason that people don't want to talk about Donald is they're afraid. Fear of saying the wrong thing, fear that all memories of him will be painful to you. And when, as you said, you appear normal and to be handling it well, they're afraid of rocking the boat. Also, you're going through something most of us would rather deny will happen to us.

I will call my stepmother later. My dad died a year and a half ago, so I do know a widow. She also has been immersing herself in many hobbies and social interactions. She plays several instruments, sings and has been taking belly dancing. She would like to date, but hasn't met anyone yet.

Keep coming around! We need you.