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[lph]

Way to go, Dogmama :-)

I just got called in for an interview for a job in the XC Skiing Association. It involves equal amounts of bureacratic nonsense and practical work, so I'm trying to figure out what on EARTH to wear... I think maybe a new pair of jeans and my dh's smart black wool jacket might be appropriate.

Yup. I wore a new pair of jeans (read: 3 hours of shopping hell on a sunny Saturday morning) and my dh's smart black wool jacket - and they worked. I just landed a second interview

I'm flabbergasted. I didn't think the first one went very well, I got nervous and started waffling and giving politician type answers just to have something to say.

I'm not 100% convinced I want the job because it would mean a lot more time away from home, but I gotta admit, I'd LOVE to be offered it...

[Crankin]

Congrats, LPH. Even if you turn it down, it will still feel good. And considering your free time when taking a job is very important to people like us, who actually value and use free time.

[Pax]

That is cool, lph. Always fun to be in the drivers seat!

[lph]

Oh. My. God.

I just got an offer. It's for a little less than I already make, and sounds unnegotiable. However they also offer one day working from home a week.

When I was asked to describe myself I should have added "undecisive" and "anxious". I should be through the roof with joy! Why am I just all wibbly and teary about leaving my wonderful colleagues, and worried about not being able to do the job properly...? I've asked for a years unpaid leave to try it out, but I have no idea if my boss will even recommend it, and if he doesn't it's really decision time.

aaaaaagh........................

But if I don't take it I will probably kick myself for years wondering why.

I HATE making big decisions!

[emily_in_nc]

I have definitely been there on those kinds of decisions. And I am terribly indecisive and always second-guess my decisions.

Ultimately, I usually follow my heart and gut. When I don't, I end up regretting it.

As my yoga instructor likes to say "listen inside".

Congratulations!

[Crankin]

Take the job.

[lph]

Yeah. I know I will. I'd be an idiot not to. But I wish I could be a bit happier about it, right now...

But I've been in the job I have now for 13 years. I have most of my friends there. I've been on climbing trips, skiing trips and dozens of bike rides with coworkers. I've lost several coworkers to cancer, and one to suicide. I've mourned with the one who recently lost his wife after three rough years of illness. I've seen friends meet, fall in love and marry, and of course I've been out shopping for gift after gift for the ones who have big birthdays or who are home with a troublesome pregnancy, or who have a baby. In many ways I'll be saying goodbye to a large portion of my life the way it is today. I guess it's just normal to feel pretty darn sad about it. I know I can keep in touch with some of them, but most of them I won't, and even the ones I'm closest to I will only meet once in a while, instead of every day.

I will get over it and see the bright side. Just a bit despondent right now. And a little shocked at how badly I'm responding to change.

[lph]

I just got an offer. It's for a little less than I already make, and sounds unnegotiable. However they also offer one day working from home a week.
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But if I don't take it I will probably kick myself for years wondering why.

Here's to kicking myself for years *cheers*

I didn't take it. The short reason is that I wasn't willing to give up that much of my free time right now. The long reason is more complicated and probably has more to do with resistance to change than I'm willing to admit... But I spent 4 days thinking it through and talking with many people, and for now this is the best decision I can make. I'm happy with that

[Crankin]

I took my job for the amount of "free time," too. I had the option of working 80% time, working fee for service, and setting my own schedule. I could have worked full time at a salaried job, and I might have shortened the time needed to get my full professional license, but I couldn't do it. Since I had never worked in the summer in my life, I was very worried about my perception of free time and being able to ride, etc. It was the right decision for me, although my Wednesdays are usually not free enough to do my group ride, unless it leaves from near my house and I don't go to the lunch. I can accept that for 6-8 more months... and then I am going to down to a 50-60% time job!!! Where I can, hopefully, commute.

[snapdragen]

Here's to kicking myself for years *cheers*

I didn't take it. The short reason is that I wasn't willing to give up that much of my free time right now. The long reason is more complicated and probably has more to do with resistance to change than I'm willing to admit... But I spent 4 days thinking it through and talking with many people, and for now this is the best decision I can make. I'm happy with that

It sounds like you made the right decision for yourself.

[indysteel]

It sounds like you made the right decision for yourself.

Ditto. It sounds like you put a lot of time and thought into your decision, lph.