Work lunch hr.: getting married

[happyscientist]

I wish I had eloped to save the hassle and expense, but it does seem like the type of thing that requires more than a lunch break. There should be a little effort and time more put into it than a trip to the post office.

[indigoiis]

I don't know. It's kinda romantic, actually. Just think, what if he proposed over coffee break, via text?

My M&D met at a dance, then he gave her a ride down to NYC and in the 4 hours in the car they fell in love. Eloped 2 weeks later (she had to break up with her then-boyfriend - who, incidentally, never married and stayed best friends with her til he died a few years ago - she broke his heart!). My folks have been together 53 years.

[Crankin]

It does seem like you might want to take off a whole day, but I am all for these kinds of weddings. DH and I got married 6 months after we met, had the ceremony and small (20 people) party on a Sat. night and we both went to work on Monday. Two weeks later we took a short trip to Sedona from Phoenix. We didn't have the time or money for anything else.
My older son got married on X Mas day 2 years ago. It was just us, her parents, and the JP. Then we went out for Korean food. They had been together for 4 years and life went on as normal the next week. They took a week long trip in February.

[zoom-zoom]

I love it! My sister and her longtime BF just were married in Vegas last night. I was able to watch online. It was NOT the wedding my mom wanted for her, but my mom didn't pay for it.

In hindsight my DH and I wish we'd eloped. What a lot of money and stress for one day. That day that had no real bearing on the nearly 16 years that have followed.

[indysteel]

My husband and I more or less eloped (it was just us and the friend of mine who married us, but everyone knew we were getting married), and although we didn't do it over our lunch hour, I can at least appreciate why someone might do that. We were more intent on starting our married life together; the how, where and when we legally formalized that were sort of incidental. So, while I understand couples wanting to make a big(ger) deal of their wedding day and the romantic and emotional significance it typically holds for a couple and their families and friends, our own wedding day just wasn't a very big deal for us. What came before that day and what has come after, however, is important to us.

[indysteel]

There should be a little effort and time more put into it than a trip to the post office.

But who says there wasn't? My husband and I talked at length about our feelings for one another, what we wanted out of our life together, our respective values and expectations, and the issues, like money, that often trip up couples. We worked (and continue to work) on those issues that had come up in our relationship. In my opinion, that's the effort that matters. The fact that we didn't make a big to-do over the wedding or spend a lot of time planning it doesn't doesn't diminish that. Conversely, spending a lot of time and money planning a wedding wouldn't have necessarily added to it.