Dear So and So

[malkin]

Absolutely, say no and mean it!

[Catrin]

Scrappy - hang in there, say no and don't allow him to change your mind. It saddens me to hear you having to go through this.

[Scrappy]

Thank you for the support ladies. (((((HUGS)))) I wish I could say NO but he's essentially got me by the proverbial tail. In this case it's the financial tail. He knows I can't work or otherwise earn an income (I'm a massage therapist) for at least 6-8 weeks after the surgery, and we burned through all of my cash savings earlier this year replacing windows in the house. He's threatened to change his paycheck to another account that I have no access to and my son and I still have to survive somehow. So I'm stuck with the situation.

One thing is for sure, I am never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever getting married again.

[OakLeaf]

(((((Scrappy))))) Talk to your lawyer. Most states, child support should be set up very soon after the papers are filed, and has to be taken directly out of his paycheck.

I don't know which knee you're having done, but even if it's the left knee and your car has an automatic transmission, I don't think they'll want you to drive right after the surgery. Get a doctor's excuse and use it.

[indysteel]

If memory serves, this is Scrappy's son from a previous relationship. Short of her husband having adopted him, I don't know that support is an option. I'm sorry that he's doing this to you. It's shameful. Wanting out of a marriage is one thing, but there are better and worse ways to take leave. He's obviously chosen the low road. May his bad karma catch up with him.

[marni]

Dear Tamoxifen,

Bye Bye, so long and farewell- for two months at least.

Had my mammogram and ultrasound today and everything came back clear. Yay for 1 year and 4 months.

Had a long talk with the Dr. who opined that since the cancer causing the mastectomy was none invasive and since it was giving me so many problems, that I should try going off the tamoxifen for a couple of months and see if things improve. If they do then there is one set of options, if they don't then there are other options. At any rate this is all hopeful.

Thank you everyone for listening to me whine and moan about the tamoxifen poisoning and general lack of progress in all things physical, endurance, mental and emotional.

[indysteel]

Yay, marni! I hope you start feeling better soon!

[Crankin]

Two weeks to go until my exam. There's a very real chance I won't pass. I know the material (been studying like crazy). It's the way the test is set up. It does not mimic real life professional practice. It's hard for me to explain, but when I meet someone and do an assessment, I consider everything and get history about everything. On this test, this is not the case. It's really tripping me up. I signed up for a site on the web where I can do tons of simulations and get test taking tips, but with such a short amount of time, who knows.
Why does the Commonwealth of MA require this test, when other states just require the one where it's just 200 multiple choice questions about theory, diagnosis, treatment, etc.
Well, I know the answer to this one, actually.

[OakLeaf]

Yay marni for the clear tests and for your doctor's "blessing!" Hope you start feeling better soon.

Good luck Crankin! You've made it this far - I'd bet on you any day.