Thank you everyone, I'm feeling a bit battered by life at the moment, your support and caring is a big help.

Thankfully my employer is very understanding and FMLA was offered immediately. I have no option to work from home but my honey and I are the sort who live far far below our means, so we can absorb the financial shock pretty well. I've been having to firm heart-to-heart conversations with my mom and that is painful, but it's helping. I don't want her to feel badly, but I also won't be treated like "the help" when I'm busting my butt to help her.