((((Pax))))) That situation really, really sucks. Does your employer offer any sort of leave transfer policy? Where others can transfer accrued leave and/or vacation (depending on the policy of the institution) to those who need it? I also wonder if there are any sort of eldercare resources you might be able to plug into (e.g., someone to help transport mom to her appointments, sit with her, give you a break). Might be worth looking into.
FYI to Catrin and Skyking: FMLA leave is leave without pay (unless your employer chooses to provide otherwise). So - it sounds like that's what's already happening.
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