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[Crankin]

I am sorry, Oak. It's good not to question the tears. It's normal.

[lph]

I'm so sorry, Oak. (((Hugs)))

My experience is that it's harder and more upsetting to grieve for a complicated or unresolved relationship than a close and warm one.

[salsabike]

I'm so sorry, Oak. (((Hugs)))

My experience is that it's harder and more upsetting to grieve for a complicated or unresolved relationship than a close and warm one.

I was just about to say exactly this. My best friend had a very awful mother. When her mother died, she had to give up that last little vestige of a dream that her mother could be a loving parent. It is such painful stuff. I am sorry, Oak. I am glad you've forged your own good life.

[emily_in_nc]

My sympathies, Oak. I had a loving relationship with my father, but somewhat complicated (he and my mom's divorce and aftermath was messy and difficult, and I had issues with his second wife while I was growing up). Losing my dad was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. It takes time to find peace, but I wish you that in the coming months and years.

[Desert Tortoise]

Oak, I'm so sorry. I hope you find peace. I'm glad you have your sister to talk to.

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[Catrin]

I am so sorry Oak, many hugs and warm thoughts headed your way. I never knew my father, and I could not have a more complicated relationship with my mother. Loss is hard enough to deal with, but even more so when the relationship is...complicated.

(((Oakleaf)))

[redrhodie]

I'm sorry Oakleaf.

[NbyNW]

Well folks, we made it to London in one piece! But the dog, the baby and I have some serious jet lag going on ...