I couldn't read and not post. I find sometimes that I have to "tune out" of my mother's negativity, but it's a hard effort and can leave me exhausted. I try to deflect attention to more neutral topics such as knitting or gardening. The only time I saw her lost for words was when I took her to a bike shop with me. She is fantastic with my daughter though, and our relationship is a lot better than it was a few years back.

I can't help thinking that your mum might feel a bit lost without your dad, but it's such a shame that she's damaging a real live relationship with you.

Sorry not to be more help. Enjoy your new car!