I spent the last two years living with DH's 93 year old grandmother in Singapore.

She has dementia and her memory was her pride and joy, so losing it is very distressing to her. Her behaviour had significatly changed as well, having tantrums etc like a child.

She simply sat at home all day. She doesn't want to go to church as it is too hard and none of her friends attend (they are often ill). She has stopped going out for dinner with her children's families. She hates having to use the wheelchair, but has to as she cannot walk too far- another reason for her not to go out.

She would tell DH that everyday she prayed to God to take her soon. She also talked about jumping out the apartment window (20 floors) as she has had another. Her latest tactic is stopping all her medication and not going to see a doctor.

I have since stopped living with her last year- it was too hard and we needed to go back to our own country. It is really horrible to live with someone who feels like this and you cannot help agree with her. Her quality of life is very low. And she wants to go as well. She's lived too long.