How to find balance

[Tri Girl]

It's OK is you don't want those things anymore. You have to deal with your health first!

When I started riding my DH joined me a few months after I got my first bike. We were totally into triathlons and racing that first year. Then he wanted to get faster and faster, and I didn't. I'm content with riding for fun and not because I need to beat a so-and-so avg. pace. I still do triathlons, but not competitively. We never ride together even tho we start out together. Same with running. We always start out together and go our own pace. When we ride centuries, he rides with his fast buddies, and I ride solo at my own leisurely pace. Sometimes happiness is loving the same things, but not necessarily together.
In fact, in the last few years I've discovered touring by bike- something that DH finds boring and silly (why carry all that stuff on your bike- you can't go fast ). I do overnight bike trips with friends and he doesn't come. And it's OK.

I hope you find your balance. Do what you want. You might not be able to keep up with the fasties (or maybe you can if you can get that asthma under control). Keep us updated.